No its not correct. U make it sound like a marital relationship is all about physical relationship, physical relationship is just a part of whole equation , it is a lot about trust and love and mainly RESPECT , a forced phsyical relationship is insulting ur partner.
I am [happily] married and fully understand the obligations and responsibilities in relation to a marriage.
In the absence of mental bonding (and physical relations), a marriage will falter irrespective of how good you are to your wife. Both husband and wife have romantic expectations from each other that are supposed to be fulfilled.
A marriage will never reach the point of 'rape' when both partners are committed to each other's needs and not being selfish. Personally, I do not see the point of raping [wife] if she keeps denying; better to throw her out of the home instead.
And i am so surprised to see ur statement that if a man refuses then it means he is suffering from depression, no many men dont feel attracted to their wives, or for sevral reasons deprive them of physical ties , some also use cutting physical ties to psychologically torture their wives.
Depression (and stress) are the fundamental causes of decline in libido, specially in men. In current times, men experience lot of stress at work (and in managing their homes) because competition is cutthroat and opportunities for a decent earning are limited. Their libido can decline as a consequence.
The wife should try to maintain herself and look attractive at home, if the husband is not finding her attractive. Chances are that he will pay attention. Otherwise, no point in sticking with a partner who does not satiate your desires and is being selfish. People who are expecting Hollywood-level beauty in women, haven't seen Hollywood actresses without make-up and should be made aware that they have unrealistic expectations in this regard.
And sorry this is another very sad statement from u "Wife should be willing under normal circumstances unless she is sick."
Women are not objects that u can easily pick and use and they should be ready for that usage almost all the time. She is a human with her own mind she should be free to decide when and what she wants just like a man.
I disagree with this Feminist rubbish.
When (and where) have I asserted that women are objects that I can easily pick and use and they should be ready for usage all the time? I am a human being, not a sex-bot; I have limitations like a normal human being. And I would not touch a single woman because this act is forbidden in Islam; never did.
However, I have 'expectations' from my wife and she understand this very well. Allah Almighty have instructed a wife to be obedient to her husband (see the verse from Surah An-Nisa in one of my earlier posts). I also understand that [wife] has her sexual highs and lows, depending upon her medical condition and other factors. However, denying your partner [for long-term] is SELFISH and EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
If you are single; you get to dictate the terms of your romance [forbidden in Islam]
If you are married; your partner have expectations from you and you should not deny without a valid reason [Obedience]
As of is "Why husband has to seek her consent every time he wants s-ex? Doesn't makes sense"
Another wrong statement , both partners need to seek each others consent , getting married does not mean anyone loses right to their bodies. Mind it in islam marriage means a legit route to form physical relationship, in so sense it ever means that a man or a woman have to be ever ready for ***ual ties and they hold no control on their bodies.
7 year does sound a long and harsh term they could have done with 3-4 years but then they udnerstand their laws better. He also lied to her shamelessly instead of admitting it
Do you understand the concept of
implied consent in marriage or "conjugal rights" to be precise?
Husband can initiate romance without feeling the need to request his wife beforehand, if she is near. This may not be norm but happens at times. If the wife is perfectly healthy and able, she [should] oblige. If wife is sick or having a period, husband should refrain.
No point in requesting [wife] for romance "every time" unless there are insecurities and/or problems in the relationship. It gets boring.
You conveniently overlooked the element of "obedience" in the context of marriage in Islam. Do your homework.
Western notion of marriage is f**ked. This is why a large proportion of men are not choosing to marry over there.
This ayah is not about the right of sexual intimacy and please don't quote verses out of context. You are no scholar and neither am I.
I am not an Islamic scholar but a scholar nonetheless and have the mental capacity to understand different things.
That verse entails all aspects of a marriage. Concentrate and learn:
So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard.
Translation: a decent wife is not only obedient but abstains from extra-marital relations.
